I along with my
friends gathered at our favorite café to enjoy cappuccino. This is a great way
to combat with the freezing temperature of the capital.
Then, we started babbling about everything. Girls and our
guffs; absolutely indispensable to each other.
Kriti said, ‘ Argh, My boyfriend is so unromantic. He never
buys gifts for me, never asks for a date or long-drive. He is so boring.’
‘Oh! Lucky me. My boyfriend is so adorable. He treats me
like a princess. He is my Raj and I am his Simran. We will be together for
years and years. He has promised that his love will never wither.’- exclaimed
Rita.
We rushed towards class as the break was over. After
someday, I received a call from Rita, she was sobbing. ‘He just deceived me. He
is in relationship with somebody else. I am destroyed.’ She burst into tears. I
did not know what to say.
I was in sheer dilemma. My mind was questioning, ‘What does
it mean to be in relationship? What do you want from your partner? What are the
characteristics that you seek in your girl-friend or boy-friend?’
I think a relationship is all about two people who love each
other very much who support each other in there every endeavor and are there
for one another when they are needed most. They stand side by side looking out
at the world; who are not perfect but perfect to each other but complete each
other. And who are completely comfortable with each other.
Every time I ask these questions to my friends, they start
narrating either the characters of fairy tales or some Bollywood movies. The
problem of our generation is this pre-occupied mindset about love and
relationship. We dream of a Cinderella’s ending that a rich, handsome guy will
come riding in his blazing car or motorbike (C’mon, we won’t dream him to come
in white horse or may be some dream that too), hold our hand and then fly back
to his wonderland. We expect our first love to last for ages and ages, which is
completely a fantasy.
But opposite of this expectation, we find him/her not
performing any such magical tricks. We will face various grey side of being in
a relationship, issues, disagreements, possessiveness etc. When we find that
nothing match between world of imagination and reality, conflict occurs which
result in end of a relationship. This can be very destructive in many cases.
This is the reason what makes eternal love ephemeral. Thus,
I believe relationship is all about respect, trust, love, support that helps to
create our own real world. We have to put the fantasy aside and light up our
real world. Sometimes, a relationship
may fail but it’s not an end of the world; we need to move on taking the past
experience as a new learning in life.
